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  • Dear Mummy I Forgive You

    My daughter and I just had a knock-down, drag-out bedtime hour. Finally, about ten minutes ago, I put her to bed and through clinched teeth said “I love you, Holland, but not another word tonight. You are going to sleep now. I’m done fussing over stuffed animals.”

    “Mommy?”

    I paused on the way out the door, literally biting my tongue I was so frustrated.

    “What is it, Holland?”

    “I DO have one more thing to say.”

    Of course she did. She was standing on the bed with her hands on her hips, too. Her hair was wild and she was using her arm to wipe her tears and snot away from her face.

    “Mommy,” my three year old said, staring me down with venom in her tiny voice…

    “I FORGIVE YOU!!!”

    Then she laid down and cried and honest to goodness, for a hot minute, I didn’t know what to do.

    The way she said “I forgive you”, made it sound like cuss words.

    I walked over to the bedside and leaned over.

    “Baby girl, do you know what forgiveness means?”

    She was still sniffling, her face shoved deep into her Little Mermaid pillow.

    “Yes,” she muttered.

    I really had to hear this.

    “It means you were wrong, and I’m tired of being mad, and now I’m going to sleep and my heart won’t have a tummy ache.”

    So there you have it, folks.

    Tonight I was taught a lesson in forgiveness by a three year old. It was a gut punch, too. And you’re dang right I climbed in that bed and loved on her.

    Because to be honest, MY heart had a bit of a tummy ache.

    I was reminded by my toddler to never go to bed in anger. Because when you do, your heart will have a tummy ache.

    And you know what? I’ve been alive for 35 years, and I’ve got to give it to her:

    She’s not wrong.

    ❤️

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  • A Letter To CBeebies Regarding Bedtime Hour

    RE: ‘BEDTIME HOUR’

    Dear CBeebies,

    I am writing to complain about ‘Bedtime Hour’.

    Since becoming a parent I have very much enjoyed your programming. I love almost everything about it; from Hey Duggee to Andy’s Prehistoric Adventures.

    Yes, Abney & Teal’s a bit shit, Bing’s a whiny dick and the Tumble family can be a bit unsettling (I’m just going to say it: Mr Tumble, Grandpa Tumble, Polly Tumble, there’s not a single member of that family that doesn’t look like they keep body parts in the freezer), but generally speaking Cbeebies is pretty awesome.

    That said, ‘Bedtime Hour’…

    6 o’clock?

    ..6 o’ f**king clock!?

    In what parallel universe does CBeebies exist that kids are settling down for bed at 6 o’ Clock!!?? Most kids are still crayoning cocks on the radiators at half 7!? And that’s the really well-behaved ones.

    Have you ever tried to get a kid anywhere near their bed between 6 and 7? … they’ll have your bloody eyes out. It’s like trying to get a pissed and f**ked off badger into a carrier bag. (It doesn’t want to go and someone’s gonna get hurt).

    Far from being bedtime.. Between 6 and 7 is the time when most kids piss-taking abilities are at their most powerful. For them, it is the perfect time to go ‘berzerker’.. full William Wallace.. smash the place up, face-plant off the settee, get out every toy they’ve ever owned and stick a plastic light-sabre up the dog’s arse.

    6-7pm is go f**king nuts time.

    It’s not just in our house, I’ve done extensive research on this and I can categorically say that 6 o’clock is not bedtime hour in anyone’s house with young kids in it.

    In fact, if you’re interested, the hours preceding bedtime are actually as follows:

    6-7pm – ‘Negotiation’ Hour

    7-8pm – ‘For Fucks Sake’ Hour

    8-9pm – “No, how many more times, you’re not watching The bloody Incredibles, its bedtime!?”.’ Hour

    9-10pm – ‘”It was your idea to have kids in the first place”‘ Hour

    10-11pm – ‘Losing the last dying embers of your will to live.. Kill Me. Kill Me ‘ Hour

    11-12pm – ‘Bedtime’ Hour

    12-? – ‘How are you up again? What are you.. a f**king vampire!?’ Hour.

    With all due respect, I know it must seem like you’ve got ‘bedtime hour’ correct – because it gets massive viewing figures – but that’s only because Tom Hardy sometimes does the bedtime story and half the mums in the UK are licking the screen.

    In truth, four hours after you lot have knocked off – to go on the piss with Dr Ranj, Mister Maker and the cast of Biggleton – Most parents are still negotiating with their mini terrorists to find out what they want in return for just going upstairs.

    And the worst thing is that, without Cbeebies, parents are then forced to stumble over to Nickolodeon Jr to endure American cartoons about talking cars and ‘being buddies’ and an endless cycle of adverts for plastic unicorns and dolls that piss and shit themselves.

    Look, I’m sure there’s a topsy and tim type family somewhere in the Home Counties where the kids adhere to this 6-7 bedtime hour. I’m sure these kids are tucked up beneath hemp blankets, that mommy weaved just that morning, gently dozing as daddy plays ‘Let it be’ on an acoustic guitar. But not in our house where if we can get our child to bed without a major fire or anybody dying that’s a pretty good evening.

    So, please. For the sake of the threadlike sanity that every parent in this nation clings to at the end of each day do the right thing. Move bedtime hour to.. let’s say…reality.

    Matt x

    P.S. Oh, and not to be an arse, but to make matters worse you lot don’t start the programmes again until 6 in the morning. This morning my son got up at 4am. He couldn’t have got up any earlier if he’d invented time travel.. I was that tired I couldn’t feel my face.. and where were you.. nowhere!?

    If I hadn’t had a couple of Go Jetters stacked up on the sky planner I’d have thrown myself under the bin lorry at 8.

    P.P.S and thanks for The Stick Song by the way, you utter barstards.

    P.P.P.S… love you really.

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  • Help Your Child Build Skills To Deal With Nightmares

    If you have ever been awakened by your terrified child because of a nightmare, you know how helpless the situation can make you can feel.

    Although we cannot control what our kids are dreaming about, we can help them build skills to cope with their nightmares. Here are a few ways to help your children get back to their sweet dreams after a nightmare.

    Function of dreams

    Nightmares are dreams that usually wake the dreamer and stir negative emotions. The highest prevalence of nightmares has been shown between the ages of 5 to 10, according to a study of children’s nightmares.

    Bedtime routine

    How you set up bedtime can make a huge difference in the emotional content of your dreams. Make sure bedtime is early enough for your children to get 8 to 10 hours of rest. We might feel like we are doing them a favor by letting them stay up late, but really we might be hurting their sleep cycle.You’ll want to stay as consistent as possible so that the routine is predictable for them, as prediction of future expectations is comforting for children.

    Comfort

    Make sure to take the time to comfort your children on both the rational side and the emotional side, An example of how to comfort the rational/logical side would be to say: “You are safe here. No one is chasing you.”With the emotional side, you want to acknowledge the emotion the child is having and help them calm themselves. For example: “I know you are scared. Take some deep breaths to calm your fear down.”

    Practice mindfulness

    Talk your child through the five senses mindfulness activity – going through the five senses of touch, hearing, smell, taste and sight. Ask your child questions like: “Feel your blanket. Describe to me how it feels,” and “Take a drink of your water. What is it like to drink water?” This exercise gets your child back to their body and more centered.

    Rewrite the ending

    If your child can remember the nightmare, have them rewrite the ending. If they were being chased by a monster, help them come up with an ending where they defeat the monster. If the nightmare ended with them losing someone or having someone they care about die, have them create an ending in which they saved that person and became the hero. Not only does the story change for them, it can give the child a sense of control that is often lost in nightmares.

    3. Change the “channel”

    If your child is having a difficult time focusing in on themselves or telling the story, walk them through changing the “channel.” Just like they are changing the channel on a television, they are going to imagine flipping to a new channel that features a particular show that is calming or comforting to them. Have them tell you what the show is, what the plot is, and which characters are in the particular episode.

    Prevention

    Along with a healthy consistent bedtime routine, you’ll want to consider the images and media your children are interacting with. Having parental locks on media sites will help reduce adding new images to those that are apart of their nightmares.

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    Another aspect to pay attention to is whether your child feels safe. Even if their answers don’t make rational sense, you should try to make them feel more secure. Adding baby gates, night lights and extra blankets can help your child feel more secure.

    Seek support

    Just because your child is experiencing nightmares, it does not mean that they are experiencing traumatic events in their waking hours, a 1992 study found. However, it is important that you address these distressing dreams and find support in creating a safety support plan. This support can be found with teachers, counselors, other caregivers and even siblings.

     

     

    Nightmares can be a stressful and uncomfortable time for both the child and their caregiver. But with a little help and practice, your child can learn how to manage nightmares and return to a good night’s rest.

     

  • Is it Bedtime Yet?

    Bedtime Can Be Stressful!

    Every family has a different routine, all children have their own wants and needs at bedtime; another story, a trip to the toilet, a different drink, any excuse to get up somedays…

    But, what time should this sometimes dreaded mission to sleep begin? 

    Below is a handy chart of suggested bedtimes.

    Is this the right bedtime in your house? 

    Let us know in the comments.