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  • This Is The Underwear We Give To Survivors Of Rape

    This is the underwear that no woman wants to wear.

    And it’s not just because it’s a plain cotton sports bra the color of Pepto-Bismol.

    It’s because this is the underwear we give to survivors of rape and sexual assault after we take their own underwear as evidence.

    We take their nice underwear, their favorite underwear, their cute underwear, their comfy underwear, their best-fitting bra, their 75-dollar designer bra, their weekend bra, their work bra. And we take it away from them while wearing gloves, and drop it into a paper bag, and seal it with evidence tape and write their police case number on the outside, and send it to the state crime lab, and they never see it again.

    And we give them some Fruit from the Loom to wear home, back to a life and a world they no longer recognize and no longer trust.

    But here’s the kicker: That boring sports bra is WAY way WAY better than what some survivors get when they’re discharged.

    Some women have ALL of their clothes taken for evidence. Shirt. Undershirt. Pants. Bra. Underwear. Even their socks. And if the local forensic/sexual assault program that cares for them doesn’t have — or won’t buy — or can’t buy — clothes for them, they get discharged in hospital scrubs.

    And grippy hospital socks.

    And postpartum white-mesh hospital underwear.

    And no bra.

    Ever seen a woman who’s just been raped, just had a three-hour forensic exam, just had every surface of her battered body swabbed and photographed and inventoried for the police, ever seen her walk out of a hospital wearing oversized hospital scrubs —

    —and her arms wrapped tightly around her chest, ashamed, because she doesn’t have a bra to wear?

    I have.

    And I absolutely refuse to ever see it again.

    This is $150 of underwear from Kohl’s. My team and I buy this underwear ourselves for our patients, because we are no longer willing to let any of our survivors go home without a bra, or without a decent pair of underwear.

    If you are looking for a place to donate something meaningful this holiday season, reach out to your local Forensic Nursing team, rape crisis center, or domestic violence shelter.

    Go to Wal-Mart, or Kohl’s, or Target, and buy clothes you’d feel comfortable in curled up, safe at home, watching TV. And donate them.

    New underwear, a comfortable bra, a comfortable pair of pants, a soft hoody, squishy socks — all of these things can help make a woman who has survived a violent rape feel like a person again.

    A person.

    Not a victim.

    Because it’s a long walk down that hallway, out of the hospital, and back into the world.

    At least she can be comfortable as she takes each step.

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    Update 12/6 — Looking for a local organization that supports survivors of rape and sexual assault? You can start here:

    https://centers.rainn.org/

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/martha.phillips.RN

     

  • Man Who Sexually Assualted A Baby Gets Early Release

    A North-east man who filmed himself sexually assaulting a screaming baby, then sent the video to his boyfriend was sentenced to 16 months in prison but was shockingly released after only serving 8 months.

    Ryan Simpson, 29, admitted filming himself kissing and sexually molesting the screaming child before sending the video to his partner.

    Simpson,  also admitted possessing indecent images of children when he previously appeared at Elgin Sheriff Court.

    The court  heard he had been in a long-distance gayrelationship when the sexual assualt took place. When his partner’s home in the south of England was raided by police in the summer, Simpson’s video recording was discovered.

    The court heard that police seized all the electronic devices in the property, including a Samsung tablet which belonged to his then-partner, discovering a sickening trail of child sexual abuse images and films.

    A “category A” indecent video showing Simpson assaulting his victim was found. The infant was distressed and crying in the footage.

    Officers later discovered text messages Simpson sent his partner at the time the sick video was recorded.

    The court heard a message sent from Simpson to his partner after the video which read: “I didn’t have much time, or I would have done as I wanted.”

    It also appeared he had been sharing them with friends in a social media chat group.

    Simpson earlier admitted charges of taking indecent images of a baby, distributing those images, and of possessing indecent images of children, the phone also contained footage of a boy aged between four and six being sexually assaulted, as well as other Category B material. .

    He also admitted sexually assaulting a child under the age of 13.

    Having only been in prison for such a short time and his trail of sickening images it is likely he will offend again.

    If you have a story or wish to raise awareness on any topic please email us at mumsadviceltd@outlook.com

  • I Saved My Daughter From Bullies But I Paid The Price

    I Saved My Daughter From Bullies But I Paid The Price.

    My daughter Amelia is a shy quiet girl with a heart of gold, she is kind and sweet.

    We have moved a lot in her short 11 years, my husband is in the army and every two to three years we have to move for his job.

    This has been a fantastic experience but has meant Amelia loses friends and has to start again.

    When Amelia was due to start secondary school we decided to settle back home in Cambridge.

    Amelia started at the local school and she didn’t seem to settle well, maybe just nerves I thought, small fish in a big pond type of thing.

    After the first few weeks she began coming home without her bag or shoes, saying she had lost them and then I noticed marks on her, scratches, bruises and even a chunk of hair was missing.

    I confronted Amelia and she denied she was being bullied, she said it was from playing hockey, or got her hair stuck in her locker.

    I knew something was going on, one day At the beginning of October I decided to wait round the corner from the school to see if I could see anything.

    I followed her across a field, six girls aged 14-15 jumped my little girl, they were pounding blows on her tiny frame, kicking her, pug her beautiful blonde locks and taking her stuff and trowing it.

    An anger rose in me, I ran at them screaming for them to get off of her.

    I was greeted with a cackle of laughter and verbal abuse.

    They picked Amelia off of the floor, held her arms behind her back and said “let’s put on a show” they hit my quiet, sweet, kind girl in her tiny stomach, winding her, my daughter looked at me with pleading eyes.

    I couldn’t stand by and watch my child be beaten, I hit one of the girls and dragged another off of my daughter throwing her to the floor.

    I took my daughter by the hand and we ran home.

    My daughter was visibly shaken and scared, I bathed my girl the first time in years I had helped her bathe.

    That night we sat cuddled up watching movies and eating snacks, I was determined that my daughter wouldn’t be returning to that school.

    Half way through the movie there was a load knock on the door and two police officers were there.

    I was spoken to in my house about the assault , not the one on my child though, the one on them.

    I was told I had to hand myself in, in the morning.

    The next day I arrived at the police station, confused and scared.

    I had my fingerprints taken, mug shot, and read my rights, I was interviewed for several hours and placed in a cell.

    I was finally called back into the interview room and told I was being cautioned on assault of a minor.

    I thought that would be the end of it, but rumours began spreading that I had beaten a child, that I was a danger to children.

    People threw rocks through our windows, my tyres were slashed, but for me the worst was hearing the whispers behind my back, the looks I was given.

    It got so bad I was scared to leave the house, and for what the fact I hit a teenager my own height for beating my daughter who was tiny.

    After six months of living in fear, we gave in and moved, we are now living in Leeds and things are starting to look up.

    I still don’t know what else I was supposed to do when I saw my daughter being attacked, I can’t think of any other way to have dealt with it.

     

  • Elderly Man In Critical Condition After Saving Woman

    An elderly man is in a critical condition after falling ill whilst attempting to save a woman he believed was in danger and  being assaulted by a middle-aged male in a busy town.

    Just before 8pm on Thursday the 9th of November, a member of the public went to the aid of a woman after reportedly seeing a middle-aged man trying to force her into a car in a high Street in Colchester Essex.
    While reporting the incident to the police, the man in his 60s suffered a serious medical episode.
    It is believed to have been a heart attack.

    Police Officers and ambulance crew  attended and a privacy screen was put in place for a short period of time close to local pubs and shops, whilst paramedics worked on the have a go hero.

    The ambulance crew transported the elderly man to the local hospital in Colchester where he remains in a critical condition, surrounded by his loved ones.

    A spokesman for the East of England Ambulance Service Trust told local reporters: “We received an emergency 999 call to High Street Colchester at 8.05pm after reports of a male collapsing.
    “Two ambulances, an ambulance car and a community first responder were sent.
    “On arrival they treated a male who had been taken unwell, he was taken to Colchester General Hospital for further treatment.”

    Police Officers later arrested a fourty four year old man on suspicion of assaulting a woman and he remains in custody, all thanks to this have a go hero who did the right thing. 
    Investigations are still ongoing.

    We hope this man makes a speedy recovery, he may well have saved this ladies life or prevented a rape or violent attack , heroes come in all shapes,colours, sizes and ages, in our eyes he is a true gentleman and hero.