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  • What To Say In An Emergency When Out Partying

    TO ALL DJ’S, DOOR STAFF, BAR STAFF, MANAGERS

    INFO…And anyone going out to party

    A dj was approached while working by a young girl and asked for the first time, “Is Angela working tonight?” – having read about the #AskforAngela initiative He knew instantly what she was referencing, said yes, told her to jump in the DJ booth with him, (she was extremely nervous…) and in turn asked the nearest security guard the same question. Luckily, he too knew, and the young girl was escorted through the back of the venue and into a taxi immediately. Her “date” upon returning from the bathroom was asked to leave by management, he without delay turned violent and security stepped-in.

    Basically, #AskforAngela is a scheme in place (established in the UK) which aims at reducing sexual violence and vulnerability by providing WOMEN and MEN with a subtle phrase to assist getting them out of potentially dangerous and helpless situations. First-dates, Tinder-dates or frankly getting home alone after a night out can unfortunately (history-proven) be a risk. I urge all DJs, venues, those in hospitality/night-life to look into the concept and educate yourselves and your staff. It may seem extreme, but sometimes you may be someones only option,

     

  • Anti Bullying Isn’t Something That Should be Discussed

    So I was listening to the radio the other week and it was talking about anti bullying week/day.

    Anti bullying is something that should not be discussed just on a certain week or day but something that should be regularly talked about openly and honestly.

    No one has the right to bully anyone, whether that be in the work place, at home, on the streets, at a school or through social media.

    No one has the right to make someone else feel worthless, fear for their safety or fear that their belongings may be taken from them, no one should be forced to hand over their belongings or monies through threats, violence or fear tactics.

    Remember that 1 nasty thing that you say or do to someone could be the final straw and the thing that leads them to seep into deep depression, contemplate harming themselves or to even take their own lives, and destroy their families lives along with theirs.

    For the bully,

    Do you really want to be responsible for someone else’s death?

    For the bullied,

    There is always someone to talk to, speak up and ask for help, once you do your life will drastically change.

    Don’t let the bullies win, a bully wins when the victim stays silent, a bully loses when they speak out.!

    So I urge you to speak out and not just on anti bully week or day!

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  • Just Do The Dam Dishes Without Being Asked

    Recently while bitching about the fact that I do absolutely everything around my house with a bunch of friends all singing “preach Queen”, someone said to me “if you want help you need to be specific… ask for it. People need lists, they aren’t mind readers.”

    So I tried that, asking.. specifics..

    “Can you take the bin out?”

    “Can you get up with the kids? I’m just a little tired after doing it on my own for 329 years”

    “Can you go to the shops? I’ve done 3 loads of washing and made breaky, lunch, picked up all the kids school books, dealt with the floating shit in the pond.”

    And yeah, she was right… shit got done.

    But I was exhausted, just keeping the balls in the air.. remembering what needs to be asked to be done, constant nagging..

    And do you know what happened the minute I stopped asking…?

    NOTHING.

    Again.

    And so I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not your job to ask for help, it’s not my job to write fucking lists.. We have enough god dam jobs and teaching someone how to consider me and my ridiculous work load is not one of them.

    Just do it.

    Just think about each other, what it takes to run the god dam house. Is one of you working while the other puts up their feet?

    Is one of you hanging out with mates while the other peels the thirtieth piece of fruit for the day?

    Is one of you carrying the weight?

    Because when the nagging stops, when the asking dies down, when there are no more lists….

    All your left with is silent resentment. And that my friends is relationship cancer..

    It’s not up to anyone else to teach you consideration. That’s your job.

    Just do the fucking dishes without being asked once in a while mother fuckers.

    Full credit goes to Constance Hall