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  • You Have To Abort One Baby

    Yup. I’m going here.

    10 weeks. That’s how far along I was when I found out I was having twins.

    11 weeks is when I was guaranteed I wouldn’t be having twins. “Baby B is not going to make it and your putting Baby A in serious jeopardy the longer you wait to terminate.” They must have thought I was crazy. I didn’t cry. I didn’t even hardly react other than to very adamantly stick with my gut. Appointment after appointment…doctor after doctor….boy did they put the pressure on. Almost as if they would receive some sort of commission. None of that mattered. I was pregnant with 2 LIVING babies. I sure as hell wasnt going to just cut the chord bc it sounded like a good idea.

    Now don’t get me wrong. It was pure torture. I was basically waiting for my baby to die. No one knew. People just knew that I was pregnant with twins but talking about it was hell. When someone would bring up what my future was going to look like, it was all I could do to not crumble bc what they didn’t know was that one and maybe even both of my babies were going to die. After all, the drs assured me this. More than once.

    But then. Day by day…week by week we made it to THIRTY FOUR weeks. And the scariest day of my life arrived.

    I delivered two of the most beautiful, perfect babies I’ve ever laid my eyes on. Baby A tipping the scales at 4lbs 15oz and Baby B – the baby who “will never ever make it”…the baby in utero with 0% chance of survival – defeated all odds and proved a strength I wouldn’t believe if I didn’t see with my own eyes, blessed this world at 2lbs 9oz and not only never needed a ventilator, but ONLY needed oxygen and a feeding tube.

    Baby A spent 16 days in the NICU and Baby B spent 29.

    And here we are. Almost 2.5 years later.

    To think of how different my life could have been had I listened to any single one of those doctors.

    To think the day I delivered them I could have STILL made a different choice?! I can’t understand. And I don’t want to.

    #forevermybestdecision #twinsforthewin #whathappenedtohumanity

    Credit https://www.facebook.com/kaidensmommy1107

     

  • Mum Told To Abort Baby By Dr, But Mum Would Not Give up

    I received the awful news that there’s no fluid left around my baby the deepest pool was 1.8cm because of this my babies lungs can’t develop so if it survives full term we won’t get more than an hour with him before he passes away, this is what we were told 4 months ago.

    Doctor after Doctor told me there was NO HOPE, NO CHANCE of survival, one Doctor even told me I was wasting NHS money and time continuing with this pointless pregnancy and just to abort it and move on.

    This was not a thing to discard this is my child, a much wanted and tried for baby boy, even if I only get to hold him for a minute it would be worth it.

    Did my baby not deserve a chance to fight for the right to live, I messaged into Mums advice and asked if there was anything I could do to give my baby more hope.

    One woman (I wish I could remember her name) told me to drink water as if it were going out of fashion, just drink, drink, drink, I followed her advice and my baby thrived, he grew, he made it to 32 weeks before deciding it was time to meet his mama.

    Samuel Chance was born on July the 26th, he took a breath, he screamed a tiny sound, an hour passed and he was still with me.

    Samuel is still in the special care unit and fighting every day, he is gaining in weight and in strength this boy won’t give up and neither will I.

    Thanks Mums advice for believing in Hope and helping me to stay strong for my baby boy!!!

    I want to urge mums out there not to give up if you have a glimmer of hope you have to hold on to it.